The Right Word or Why we are Doomed to Misunderstand Each Other.

Since I have started writing on a daily basis, I have discovered that sometimes I have trouble coming up with the right word or phrase to actually explain what I am thinking. It happens frequently. I stop writing then and try to think of the right word.

I used to wait and come back to the piece and hope that it came to me. Sometimes it did but sometimes it didn’t. When I struggled, I started to use the best word or phrase I can come up to explain what I mean even though it wasn’t really the word I wanted. This allowed me to complete my blog but it bothered me when I did that because it isn’t exactly what I wanted to say and my meaning is a bit off. It is close but not quite right.

I tried the thesaurus thinking that since I am close, the thesaurus will list the correct word. This usually worked but sometimes, remarkably, the word I am looking for wasn’t there. Then I think that the word I was looking for hasn’t been invented yet which I find unbelievable. I am fairly certain that I am not the first person in 6,000 years or so of history to want this word. So where did it go and why can’t I find it?

It also dawned on me that this is the problem with all human communication. No one can quite say what they really want to say because they are missing the right words to say it. In order to communicate, people have to use whatever words come to them in order to move the conversation along. The problem is when the conversation continues with these not quite right words, are we really understanding each other?

So even when we speak the same language and are understanding the words we say, the person we are talking with may not understand us for lack of the right word It is really quite amazing that we get along as well as we do.

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